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Most people enjoy getting attention. It's one of our basic needs. Little kids go through a "Look at me!" stage that lasts years. I believe we never grow out of that. All we do is learn how to be more subtle in saying, "Look at me!"

There are lots of strategies for getting attention. Perhaps you like to select clothing that will make people spend a bit more time looking at you. Maybe you excel at your job, or at a team sport, so people will notice you. I believe that personal attention is a big part of what makes you enjoy getting a massage or a haircut or a pedicure.

I was a banker in the caveman days when ATM machines were new. The big fear from customers was the loss of "personal service." That's code for "I like to get attention from a bank teller."

I worked as a hotel desk clerk for a few summers when I was in college. My boss trained us to understand that half of the complaints we received were valid and the other half were from people who wanted some personal attention. We were trained to give that attention by carefully writing down the complaint and then throwing away the piece of paper when the customer left, assuming the complaint was obvious nonsense. It happened a lot.

The main reason I write this blog is because I like the attention. The main reason people leave comments on what I write is for the attention. We can all concoct other rationalizations, but attention is the main payoff. (By the way, I do read most of the comments.)

Consider the odd concept of asking for autographs. My theory is that the attention of a famous person seems more valuable than the attention of an unknown because the famous person is himself the subject of much attention. It's as though the famous person is a magnifying glass, focusing the sun of attention on the recipient at the moment that the autograph is given. It's like regular attention but supercharged.

I assume there is some evolutionary advantage to seeking attention. The first step in mating is making someone else notice you exist. On a psychological level, I believe attention from others is a necessary condition for staving off insanity. Regardless of its purpose, attention is clearly a deep and natural human need.

This brings me to the question of the day. If the New York Times asked you to write a guest editorial, for no pay, on the topic of your choice, would you do it? Suppose you know that your writing won't change any opinions, and it would take five hours for you to research and write your article. Also assume that the Times editors would tighten up your writing to make it sound professional, so it's no problem if you're not a great writer. All you would get from this experience is attention, and probably a lot of it. Would you do it?

If your answer is yes, then it provides a basis for putting an economic value on attention. There's a price-per-word range that publications are willing to pay professional writers for content. If you would do that same work for free, at least once, then that is one data point for beginning to determine the average value of attention.

Someday an entrepreneur will make a fortune by figuring out how to monetize personal attention in the most efficient way.

 

 
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May 27, 2010
"attention is the main payoff"

nope

If you crave attention, it's because it makes you feel good, or you hope/expect it to.

Feeling good is always the main payoff.
That's all everybody wants.
The expectation of feeling good - it's why we do everything we do.

Some people actually don't like to be the center of attention (like my wife, for example, except from me, when I'm trying to work, read, relax, etc...)

Use "so that" or "because" to figure out if it's the end, or a means to an end.

"I want a new car / house / wife so that..."

Do you crave attention simply because you like attention?
Or do crave attention because you think it will make you feel good to have it?

We spend our days chasing money, promotions, material wealth not because these things matter. But rather, it's because we hope and expect these things to make us feel good once we have them.

Attention is simply a means to an end: feeling good.

-j
 
 
May 21, 2010
"Someday an entrepreneur will make a fortune by figuring out how to monetize personal attention in the most efficient way."

I think some entrepreneurs already do this. They're called "prostitutes", I think.
 
 
May 20, 2010
I think entrepreneurs figured that one out a long time ago, ... their called, "prostitutes".
 
 
May 19, 2010
So, you discovered Twitter?
 
 
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May 18, 2010
"...ATM machines..."

Automatic Teller Machine Machine?
 
 
May 18, 2010
"Someday an entrepreneur will make a fortune by figuring out how to monetize personal attention in the most efficient way." -Scott

You mean like youtube or any of its spinoffs?
 
 
May 18, 2010
I would write the article but I wouldn't write about anything that evokes strong feelings such as abortion, even though that type of article would probably generate more attention, because it would attract a certain amount of negative attention. I suspect that people who are pissed off at you are probably more likely to focus their attention on you than people who agree with what you say. I'm not really sure about that, though, and I would welcome feedback even if it's disagreement.
 
 
May 18, 2010
While the attention would be cool, the problem I have is "Suppose you know that your writing won't change any opinions." If I somehow magically knew and believed that, then no, I would not write it. The only reason I seek attention is to influence people. If I have no influence, then why seek the attention?

Of course, in real life, I do believe I could same change some opinions, and so would write the article, for free. Especially if it was in the print version. Even the on-line version. Maybe even some knock-off I am unaware of.

By the way, I am a professional computer programmer, and would not write a program for the NYT times for free, attention or not.
 
 
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May 18, 2010
Of course I would do it. I have already done it for a news-blog of a tv-station. What I got was attention and a small clock as a thank-you gift. But only one time or maybe a few times. As soon as it starts to take up too much time, I want to be paid.
 
 
May 18, 2010
Although choosing good clothing does attract other people's attention, it is more for one's own taste/utility. Just because no one is going to visit one's house, one doesn't maintain it like a dirty slob. Well, Maybe a clean slob but not the other despicable kind.

monetary capitalizations of attention...hmm..."buy our product and you could be the lucky winner of a dinner with a celebrity" and almost any advertisement. Some sales people ooze fake attention till you buy their product, Some people feign attention to get their job done from others, So do governments/politicians/rich-artists-identifying-with-the-poor-commoners etc....
 
 
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May 18, 2010
I would like to mention something about "attention".

My previous employer managed an international aviation magazine. I joined the team as as an "Editorial Assistant" fresh out of college, and started at $27K/year. My job was to edit manuscripts, and attend the small press conferences that the more senior writers thumbed their noses at.

I wanted the attention, and loved covering the events. I loved having my face seen. I would do anything -- anything -- to get my name in writing, and in front of the readership. I schmoozed with the honchos, and hobnobbed with the aviation rich-and-famous. I shot pictures just to get my name in the photocredits, and wrote nonsense articles just to have a byline. I specifically attended airshows so I could get both a byline AND photocredits! I traveled the world! I was one of the in-crowd! And I loved it!

Eventually, I moved up the company ladder and became News Editor. I wrote news articles and managed 5 news sections, along with an army of freelance writers. (By the way, Scott, we didn't pay by the word. We paid by the page: $200 was standard rate.) I was earning over $60K/year, but I was required to more-or-less give up my life. Everything I enjoyed went by the wayside, including my health. My weight shot up, as did my blood pressure. One morning I took a long look in the mirror and didn't recognize the fat guy staring back at me. I worked weekends and holidays. An average day started at 7am and didn't end until well after 9pm.

I found that my desire for attention became less as the workload increased. Soon enough, I hated seeing my name in print, and would erase it if I even saw it in a photocredit or byline. Getting pounded at the office crushed my love of writing, and burned me out. I hated the business. I finally decided that if I didn't leave on my own accord, I would leave in a box. I packed it in after nearly 10 years in the pits.

Attention ain't all it's cracked up to be. If you want it, go and get it, but you're going to lose something important in the process: Your humanity.

Would I do an article for the New York Times? Not a chance. I know what editors do to articles.

 
 
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May 18, 2010
I was going to post something else then considered that it will simply be observed as my desire for attention and therefore lessened by that. In that way posting a comment here is a kind of trap, you may as well ask 'have you stopped beating your wife?'

As for monetising attention... i would draw your attention to therapy, in which no pretense is really given, no hair is cut, no trade takes place other than your money for this time and their attention.
 
 
May 18, 2010
I wouldn't do it. The stress and anxiety from the inevitable NEGATIVE attention would utterly overwhelm any flickers of pleasure from the positive attention... and all it'd be would be flickers, not because I don't think there'd be a significant amount of praise but because I'm pretty much indifferent to praise.
 
 
May 18, 2010
we are all will to power, no? I don't like attention, so I wouldn't write for NY Times. but i'm writing this comment...
 
 
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May 18, 2010
I would only write that free editorial if I could mention http://www.michaeledits.com in the article.

Hey Scott, thanks for the attention.
 
 
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May 18, 2010
You are basically asking a bunch of people sitting down in a restaurant if they are willing to pay for food ... those of us commenters that answer 'yes' to your question are of course way more likely to type in a comment (for free) than those people that don't (there are always a few exceptions).

@gbeeton: I do not agree that "attention seeking is a symptom of insecurity" as you suggest. On the contrary those that are insecure will avoid drawing attention to themselves for fear of the possible negative reactions. Whereas the narcissistic over self confident bullies couldn't care less how other people react to their attention seeking efforts. Of course there is large gray field in the middle of those two extremes, but you get the drift.

Then of course there is the enjoyment of writing itself. Some people like yourself (and yes also me) clearly enjoy writing just for the heck of it, no matter if it is read or not. Diaries for example are usually not written for others to read, although there might also be a therapeutic reason for those.
 
 
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May 17, 2010
Re: the New York Times Editorial, I wouldn't do it. I don't consider myself an attention seeker, the attention in this instance to me is irrelevant. If I had something particular that I wanted to communicate, some driving personal message or theme or even something i wanted to sell, then maybe. In the absence of something like that as a motivator, the attention in it's own right isn't sufficient to get me to do 5 hours work.

And yeah, interesting point about autographs. I've never collected them. I have a friend who is a minor celebrity. When I bump into him at the footy at go to have a chat, we're frequently interrupted by other people coming over wanting to get a photo with him. Often, I end up being the photographer but I (usually) avoid getting in any of the photos.
 
 
May 17, 2010
"My theory is that the attention of a famous person seems more valuable than the attention of an unknown because the famous person is himself the subject of much attention."

You basically just described Google's PageRank algorithm. On web pages, links are a way of giving attention to other sites. The attention you give is worth more if you're a site that already gets a lot of attention.
 
 
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May 17, 2010
Of course I would. I have things to say - and I love working with editors who make me sound better than I deserve. Honeybees! I don't care what research uncovers about the proximate cause of their decline - the underlying problem is our breeding practices and it is only getting worse. We have the technology to solve the problem. We could set up centers for instrumental insemination of queens, using genetic material from organically-maintained hives from apiaries in which weak colonies have been allowed to die. This is the only viable long-term solution to a problem that affects us all. Anyone listening?

Yes. I would jump at the chance.

I have been given other opportunities to write for (nearly) free and turned them down. For example, I was offered $500 to write a chapter in an "Idiot's Guide" book. At the pace I work, it would have worked out to about $5/hour. No thanks.

 
 
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May 17, 2010
About the New York Times guest editorial: that's a no-brainer!

That guest editorial is basically free premium advertisement space!

In it you can subtly plug whatever product of yours needs to get plugged these days, or pitch ideas that can help you move towards some of your goals (Nobel prize, presidency, being considered an expert/talk show guest/ etc on certain topics), or take revenge on one of your nemesises. With "the topic of your choice" they offered you a very precious opportunity.

That's certainly worth a day of work! World domination awaits!

 
 
 
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