I forget where I read this tip, but I have used it many times with great success. It starts with the notion that most women change their hair all the time. You might not notice, but a woman is very aware of these small deviations in everything from highlights to length to fluffiness. I'm probably not using the official hairdresser terms, but you get the idea. It's different every day, at least according to the woman who owns the hair. To me, hair is either brown or it isn't, and you either have some or you don't. The rest is beneath my radar.

So here's the tip. When you see a woman who you haven't seen for a few weeks, you can pay her this compliment, and it works every time. Say, "You've done something with your hair. I like it."

The woman will feel flattered that you noticed anything beyond her hair's very existence and its degree of brownness. She might even wonder if you can be her new gay friend. But she will confirm that something is indeed different and offer many details about how it got there. You can use that time to think about your hobbies.

So far, this idea isn't mine. I just forget where I stole it from. But I did add a twist to it that I will claim credit for. You know how embarrassing it is when you introduce yourself to someone you think is a stranger at a gathering and the person says, "We met a few weeks ago." This is a sure tipoff that you consider the person non-memorable. If the person is a woman, you can use the hair trick to save yourself. Simply look surprised that you have met before then pretend you are having a flash of recognition, and add "Of course! But your hair is different today. It threw me."

Now you have flipped it from being the idiot who can't remember a new person for a few weeks into a person who has such intense memory for detail that any deviation is the same as a mask.

Yes, I've used that method often. I can't say it works every time, but it sure beats my old method of arguing that I must look like some other person and I just arrived in town an hour ago.

You're welcome.

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Mar 11, 2009
Hehe. Funny, but not always effective.

I've had men and 'women' give me that line (I'm a female too, btw) on several occasions, except sometimes they actually will give the detail of my hair that's changed.

Only one problem with this. More often they're wrong, I haven't done anything with my hair. *lol* So I give them this strange look and say "Uh..I have? No..I don't think so." Which then makes them feel incredibly awkward. Maybe it's because they are using your trick to try and make it seem like they notice something. Hehe. I break the rule.

In truth, I do nothing different with my hair except cut it a bit shorter two or three times a year, after it's grown a few inches. Two summers ago I DID switch where the parting was..and ironically, that time NO ONE noticed that there had been an actual change. *lol*

So, careful with this one guys. ;) You might end up worse off with some of us.
Mar 11, 2009
Dale Carnegie, in the original 'How to Wins Friends and Influence People', tells of complimenting a (male) post office clerk on his magnificent head of hair, but that might have been easier to do in the 1930s.
Mar 10, 2009
I believe I first heard the bit about "you've done something to your hair" from a television situation comedy.

The show was called "Empty Nest," and it was on NBC from 1988 to 1995.

It had a standard "wacky neighbor" character, played by David Leisure, who was already well known when the show premiered for the "Joe Isuzu" automobile ads.

Anyway, the David Leisure character would sometimes give tips on how to woo women to the show's protagonist, a widower, played by Richard Mulligan. In one such conversatiobn the whole "women are always doing something to their hair" spiel arose.
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Mar 10, 2009
OT: Speaking of things being different...

Question: What's significant about the strip from 11/19/08?

I'm surprised I missed before but...it's one of the very, very rare times Dilbert has actually been drawn with a visible mouth!
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Mar 9, 2009
I always forget people's names, so I just don't use them in general conversation. I figure if a person already knows their own name, they don't need me reinforcing it. Generally after talking for a minute or two, I'll at least remember where I know them from, if not their actual name.

And with the hair, be carefull. A lady where I work is undergoing treatment for breast cancer. Someone tried the "your hair looks great today" on her a few weeks back and got a very frosty, "It's a wig" as a response.
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Mar 9, 2009
That just happened to me yesterday! Talk about synchronicity. I "met" someone again, whom I had been in a particularly small class with for a semester...and admittedly, I should have known her on sight -- especially after our mutual friend gave me her name (again). As soon as I said, "nice to meet you," purely out of habit, I realized what I had done. She pointed out that we had been in class together -- and I scrabbled for anything to salvage the situation. I threw a flash of surprise across my face and pointed out that she had died her hair a different color, and BAM. Suddenly I was the "only person who noticed it right away!" Heh heh heh.
Mar 8, 2009
My Father in Law had a trick he told me about that he used in his auto parts business (God rest his soul). When he would meet someone and they would know his name and greet him like an old friend and he had no memory of them or had forgotten their name; he would simply ask them their name and they would day something like "Joe" or Linda" he would say Of course I remember your first name....it is your last name I forgot....

A little deceit can go a long way.......
Mar 8, 2009
This only works for men who forget a woman's name. What about women who forget a man's name?
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Mar 8, 2009
Women who change their hairstyle also change their dressing style to complement it. You can think of more ways to compliment them:

"I like what you're wearing"
"These jeans make you look fabulous"
"That top goes well with your long hair"
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Mar 8, 2009
Whereas men rarely change anything appearance-wise, so this technique will not work for women.

But then, we're too busy thinking about our hair and its degree of brownness to care.
Mar 7, 2009
@ Carpe Geekem:

Are you saying that you don't want your hubby to buy you flowers and take you out to a nice dinner???

Actually, you prove some of my point. To quote you: "I reached the age .....so I grew mine [hair] out." In other words, you felt like you were different, or felt like being different, so you changed your hair. I am surprised that you haven't noticed that people are repsonding to you differently, maybe just smiling at you more, or being more (or less) attentive.

I can only tell you what my experience has been with a woman's hair change. Actual mileage may vary. Past performance is not indicative of future results. Batteriers not included. Don't take advice from bloggers on a cartoonists website;. And other other applicable disclaimer.

But my predition is that soon you will be taking up a new hobby, or picking up one that you also haven't done for 30 years. And so it begins. Like I said, your husband's in touble, he just doesn't know it yet. You just don't either.

Mar 7, 2009
Ladies, this is what you say when Scott's line is used on you: "WHAT WAS WRONG WITH IT BEFORE? "

Mar 7, 2009
Your method is almost perfect.

I once had to meet a group of strangers and I knew it wasn't my day when many of them had what I call forget-able looks. The meeting ended and we had a little refreshment. So I saw this lady whom I didn't remember seeing, asking her if she had just arrived. Of course, she was with us throughout the meeting.

I can't use the hair trick here, can I?
Mar 7, 2009
I walked into the kitchen yesterday, looked on the calendar and saw that my wife had a hair appointment earlier that day. I complemented her on the hair and the temperature dropped to below absolute zero. I was reading next week's calendar.
Mar 6, 2009
In Canada, which is a socialist country, it is against the law to comment on a woman's hair without a government issued permit.

I thought I should add that because nobody has mentioned Canada in this blog for a number of days.

Mar 6, 2009
A good idea in gerneral but there are risks.
I used to compliment a woman's hair any time I noticed a change. One day as a meeting was getting started I commented to Tricia that her new "do" looked great. She froze, gave me the evil eye, gathered her stuff, stormed out of my office and slammed the door. I was mystified. Then someone explained she had forgotten her umbrella and got caught in the rain walking from the train to the office.
Mar 6, 2009
"Degree of brownness." Ha!

As a woman with hair, I can verify that indeed hair compliments work. They're kind of the best thing ever.
Mar 6, 2009
I've found that when a woman changes her hair --, I mean really changes it so that even Scott would notice -- that is a serious danger sign. When a woman wears her hair differently (color, length, style) she feels different. And she is also treated differently (cf: Blonds).

I don't know if she changes her hair because she feels different, or she feels like being different (it's a chicken-and-egg thing, so you really can't say which comes first), but every time in my life, whether a girlfirend, wife or daughter, when the hair changes, EVERYTHING changes. And that includes her relationship with me.

My advice: If your gal changes her hair, IMMEDIATELY buy her a dozen roses and take her out to a nice dinner to celebrate "the new you". You're in trouble; you just don't know it yet.
Mar 6, 2009
Oh no! I just realized that there's a fatal flaw embedded in the execution of Scott's sage advice.

Scott is a celebrity, which means that zillions of people (some at this very moment) will slavishly follow his advice -- although his advice is often disguised as humour, so prevent the advice from falling into the hands of dangerously Complete Induhviduals.

So that means that one day soon, everyone will know that the phrase "nice to see you" is code for "I am trying to hide the fact that I haven't got a clue as to whether or not I have met you before -- you are that bloody forgettable an induhvidual".

Damn. I hate it when brilliant ideas have a fatal execution flaw. I really do.

Mar 6, 2009
Same thing as retho2, Say nice to see you instead. I learned that from Jerry Seinfeld in a commentary.
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